Pre-Wedding Jitters

The Big-Day is set...Plans are clear...Guest are told bout the Big-Day...Gowns Fitting is just round the corner...but the only problem is...

Feeling like JULIA ROBERTS in her film "RUNAWAY BRIDE"???

Guess we are suffering from the "so-called-wedding-jitters" ba...

"Wedding Jitters start from the moment you begin talking 'bout getting married to the moment you walk down the Aisle..."

HOW DO YOU RECOGNIZE JITTERS, WHAT’S NORMAL?

Know there’s no pattern, jitters come in waves. Sometimes they are more intense than others.

It is about letting go and changing and adapting to someone else and your new sense of who you are.

It is about new beginnings as well as separating and loss, doubts about marriage this person, his or her habits, parents, other aspects you may not know yet and are worried about.

It is about making choices and being on your own.

It is about committing to someone else who is going to be more important than your own family.

If you have never lived with someone, this is a biggie. You may fight a lot over little senseless things, you may cry, storm around, become someone you don’t recognize.

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THEM?

Live your life
Jitters are helped when you relax and keep your own life intact. Don’t lose yourself and your sense of who you are. Look realistically at the challenges you face together and separately. Consider your friends, his friends and the friends you make together. Do you have fear about giving up your friends? Talk about it. Keep those lines of communication open. Your home (space) and your taste?, Your job? Are you not taking a job because you are going to be married?
Friends react to your getting married. Be aware of what is going on and bring it out in the open.

Forget Perfection
People focus on perfection. Perfection breeds jitters. Get rid of “perfect.” Everything will not be perfect! The perfect wedding will not happen — accept it, the perfect apartment, the perfect friends, the perfect sister in law, some things are just the way they are and you have to learn how to adapt, which is all normal.
Let go and give away the need to control everything. Be careful about what is fantasy and what is real. Focus on what is truly important.
Perfectionism is about control. If you let it loosen a bit, you will find that the grief, fear and loneliness that many people who are about to marry experience are not only normal but healthy. Everyone questions whether they are making the right decision. Questioning is not doubting.

Face your fears
Jitters thrive on fear. Worry never prevented nor solved any problem. It is normal to feel fear when jumping into the unknowns of marriage.

They happen because marriage does change your whole life. The jitters don’t necessarily mean you’re having second thoughts about the person you’re marrying. He or she may be the best soul you could ever find. Jitters can come from the life change marriage causes. It changes the way you live, your friends and who you are friendly with, the new family you might be gaining.

It’s basically fear of the unknown.

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